What Are You?

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

I'm sure you've all seen these "You know you're an introvert when..." / "How an extrovert feels..." lists floating around.  When I read BuzzFeed's introvert list I started thinking, "yeah but isn't that really how everyone feels sometimes?"  Then I went and read their extrovert list and almost vomited from the anxiety of just reading it.

Ok, maybe we are different.  It's so hard for me to relate to the extroverted side and I'm wondering if they have as hard a time relating to the introverted side. Does BuzzFeed's list accurately reflect how you feel?  I mean don't you ever just want to not see people for an entire week?!

Also, the thought of "recharging" at a party or in a massive group of people just does not compute with me.

On the bright side I often feel like I am just boring or lazy but in reality I'm just doin' what I gotta do.

My friend Laura shared this Huffington Post piece.  Not that I don't trust BuzzFeed's depiction of people, but it was nice to see this backed up somewhere else.  It also provides a little more "you're not a loser, introvert" support.

The one that most jumped out at me was  #8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterward.

I don't love public speaking, but I also don't mind it.  One of the first things we had to do in my Masters program in Dublin was take a presentation workshop.  It seemed like a majority of people were severely uncomfortable doing it and more than one commented on how calm and collected I was.  A lot of them thought it was a special skill that I could smile through the whole presentation.  I didn't even know I was doing it.

I thought this meant that I was just the lamest extrovert ever but after reading that piece it makes sense.  I can give the speech but have me mingle or network after? Uh uh.

So, what are you?  I'm 100% and introvert but I'd love to hear from a few extroverts!


  1. wew, np matter how many tests i did, the answer is always the same. i'm an introvert. but i think when you meet people you feel you can trust, you just open up a little bit more?

  2. I don't believe in putting people in niches like that... I'm probably both introvert and extrovert, I love meeting new people, but hate speaking to crowds (singing and playing for crowds is better, actually!), love being out and about but also love some alone time on the couch. But then, since I prefer smaller groups than larger groups, maybe that makes me more introvert than not. However, I still think we all are both!